I feel that writing out a birth plan, even if it is short and simple, is very important. It gives the couple an opportunity to discuss certain things that you may not even think about during pregnancy, birth and afterwards. The last thing you want is to be arguing with your partner, family members or your doctor/midwife during such a special and beautiful time. Many women don't even know they have choices in certain procedures. The doctors and nurses make it sound routine, or even required. They do not want an educated mama messing up their schedule! For the most part, a midwife's philosophy is to educated their patients on options and allow for nature to take it's course. They tend to have a "hands off" policy, which is why I wanted a midwife in the first place!
This is a great website to visit: www.earthmamaangelbaby.com. They have lots of great products, and also an area for you to customize your birthplan. You can print it out and give it to all parties involved. They bring up so many points, things that never even entered my mind! After looking over the options, researching and discussing it all with Avery and Michelle, I felt we had an easy-to-follow plan that everyone was on board with.
If you are having your birth in a hospital with an OB, you will want to discuss your plan with them. Unfortunately, some things may not be possible, such a yourself or the father catching the baby, birthing in a tub, etc. However, stand firm on certain things, such as immediate breastfeeding and bonding, eliminating eyedrops, rooming in, and no supplements (sugar water or formula).
Many times, it is a good idea to hire a doula or a support friend/family member to make sure your wishes are carried out. Sometimes in the midst of the excitement or anxiety (or even in the case of an emergency), mom might get stressed out and dad might feel helpless. A doula or friend that is not directly involved will be able to remind mom of her plans and keep dad calm.