Model Behavior

"Do Not Live by Emotions; Instead Live by Intuition and Consciousness"

Seems kinda of philosophical. But...this was the tag on my Yogi Tea this morning, and this is what really got me motivated to write this post today. (You never know where you'll find inspiration!)

According to a recent study published in Public Health Nursing, toddlers were less likely to consume fruits and vegetables if their moms weren't big produce eaters. "Kids form food preferences during the first four years of their life. And the biggest influence on their palates is what they see their mothers eating" says Mildred Horodynski, Ph.D., the study's lead author. She goes on to explain, "If you encounter resistance the first time you present a new food, don't give up. It can take up to 15 tries for a child to learn to like something."

Makes sense. As the saying goes, "Kids will see, Kids will do." No matter what excuse you have or what far-fetched story you come up with, kids will do what you do. They learn better from your example then your words.

Green Smoothie Time!

They will want to eat what you eat: That is why Nolan insists on eating off my plate even though he has the exact same thing. And why after I peel an apple for him, he wants to gnaw on mine. He wants what mommy has! This has kept us very "honest" when buying/making snacks at home. Nolan is now old enough to see what we eat and want it too. Instead of ice cream, we make yummy almond butter, banana and cocoa smoothies. I have numerous healthy (and quick!) cookie recipes that I can refer to for a sweet snack. (see any of my Recipe posts) Granola and Greek yogurt, fruit, even fresh juice in a fun cup turns into a "dessert"! As for eating out, a side of fruit or salad replaces fries and potato salad. This is where my Yogi Tea quote comes into play... Instead of indulging in the sweet potato fries (emotions), I use my intuition to teach Nolan about making healthier food choices. In turn, I also benefit from the healthier choice!

Mama&Baby Yoga

They will exercise if you do: My little Yogi gets so excited when we get to do Family Yoga! We also have access to tons of free Kids Yoga videos through our cable company. When I'm just practicing or playing around in the house, he stops whatever he is doing and joins in. He even knows most the asana names! Not only is he getting physical activity, but I am challenging his imagination, recollection and muscle memory.

They will mind their P's and Q's: We all get upset. There are days that I am mad, annoyed or in a hurry. But, how I react in front of Nolan teaches him manners and respect for others. I try to be very conscience of saying "Please" and "Thank you", speaking in a pleasant tone, and explaining things to him, like why we are waiting in line for food or to use the bathroom. In turn, he does imitate alot of what I do, and I am very proud of how polite he is.

As a mother, I MUST be very conscience about my decisions. I am teaching Nolan through my actions, responses, and decisions - and what he learns will be with him forever. I can remember the things my mother did and said when I was a child. I can remember how I felt. I want to instill in Nolan (even at this young age) the things I know to be true: Your body is a temple - treat it as one; to love yourself; eat the food that God provided; get outside in the fresh air and sunshine; run; live your life to the fullest; breathe.

Raw Oatmeal Cookies - Recipe

Super easy, no added sugar, vegan and raw! Perfect little snack for the mom-on-the-go!

1 cup of organic oatmeal
1 tsp ground cinnamon
1 cup organic raisins
5-6 organic Medjool dates (chopped fine)
2 Tbs Extra Virgin Coconut Oil
Filtered water

In a large bowl, combine oats, cinnamon and EVCO. Chop dates until they are a mushy ball and hand mix with oats. Add raisins. Add EVCO. Begin adding water, starting with a 1/4 cup. Mix ingredients thoroughly. If too dry, add water 1 tbs at a time until you get a good consistency. Roll into balls and gently flatten into a cookie shape. Line cookie sheet with parchment paper and refrigerate for 30 min before serving.

Spiced Pecans - Recipe

Yummy little snack; perfect for a holiday gift to share with friends and family....

Spiced Pecans:
1 egg white
2 Tbs organic agave nectar or raw organic honey
2 cups whole raw organic pecans
2 tsp chili powder
1 tsp ground cinnamon
1 tsp sea salt
1/4 tsp cayenne
(adjust the spices and quantity to your taste....I substituted the chili powder for 1/4 tsp cardamom for a more "Indian" taste.)

Preheat oven to 300*. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. In a large bowl, lightly whisk egg white; then briefly whisk in agave/honey. Stir in pecans and coat evenly. Add in spices and stir until coated well. Transfer pecans to baking sheet. Bake for about 25 minutes, until the pecans are browned and the coating is dry. Cool completely and store in an airtight container.

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Traveling with Baby - and keeping your sanity!

I'm sure there are alot of Mamas out there that have traveled way more then us, but I still wanted to share our traveling experiences with the parents that are nervous to travel with little ones. Having a baby is no reason not to take day trips, long weekends or even cross-country excursions. In fact, I think it is easier to travel with a baby then a toddler!



Waiting to board the plane


One of the easiest ways to keep the trip cheap and stress-free is to Breastfeed! Baby is satisfied, Mom and Dad are less stressed, no need to carry bottles and formula and Baby will get those awesome immunities from the breastmilk to help fight off any colds.

For trips that required plane rides, we found it much easier to bring enough diapers, wipes and snacks for the plane ride, but then purchase those items once we arrived at our destination. That way we did not have to carry-on or pack a huge amount of stuff. We also did not pack shampoo or soap. We just went to the local health food store and picked up a small container of castile soap - gentle enough for baby, can be used on hair and body and you can even wash clothes and dishes with it.

If you are staying in once location for a few days and you can find one, a hotel room with a kitchen is sooo worth it! We stayed in one of these for over a week and saved a ton of money by not eating out and eating healthier food. Next time, I will bring the blender - Seriously! At the end of that trip, we were desperate for a green smoothie!

Snag stuff from the hotel. It's ok...that's why its there! In the morning, we would grab a bunch of bananas, apples, plain yogurt, oatmeal, and peanut butter & honey packets. Then we would have little snacks throughout the day. You can pick up or even bring (its so light!) a bag of Quonia Flakes. These cook up like instant oatmeal. Add in some honey, cinnamon, raisins and bananas from the Breakfast Buffet and you got a healthy, filling meal that your kids will enjoy too!

If you are staying with someone at their house, or in a hotel for more then a few days, consider bringing less clothes and doing laundry a few times throughout the trip. You will save space when packing, and maybe can get all the family's clothes in one suitcase (like we do!). Only one bag check fee and less hassle. Most hotels have a laundry area and laundry-mats can be a "fun" outing for the kids.

We have always rented the carseats with the rental car. You save on buying an extra seat on the plane and lugging that heavy carseat through the airport.



Sightseeing in St. Augustine at 2 months



Bring a soft carrier or sling, even you plan on bringing your stroller. It's nice to have options, and this makes it very easy when exploring a place that strollers just don't belong (hiking, beach, medieval castles and most of Europe!).

For babies and toddlers, bringing a few familiar things from home can be comforting (books, special toys, DVD's). Bedtime can be tough, so a special blanket or lovey can help. If you already co-sleep, like we do, this will be a much easier transition. I have found exploring the hotel can be fun for a toddler and something special to add to the trip. Create a vacation "routine" and sticking some of your regular at-home routines can keep kids calm because there is consistency. Nolan loved helping with the clothes at the laundromat, pushing the elevator buttons, looking for our "new car" in the parking lot, and saying "HI" to the front-desk staff every time we passed by.

Do your homework. Find out where the health food store, laundromat, library, parks, storytimes, kids playgroups or kids yoga, malls and kid-friendly places are ahead of time. This helps when you need to get something fast or prevent a melt-down!!

This is a great post: 10 Benefits to Breastfeed during the Holidays. Also applies to anytime traveling.

And most important....Remember to BREATHE!! and LAUGH!

Apricot Squares - Recipe

Easy-to-make, kid-friendly, no added sugar, gluten-free and a QUICK snack to whip up!

1 Cup dried Apricots
1 Cup unsweetened shredded coconut
2 Cup Almond meal/flour
1/2 tsp sea salt
1/4 tsp baking soda
2 large eggs
1 tbs vanilla extract

Preheat oven to 350*. Line an 8" square baking pan with parchment paper. In a large food processor (I did it in my blender), blend the apricots and coconut until crumbly. Pulse in the almond flour. Pour mixture into a large bowl and stir in remaining ingredients until well combined. Press mixture into pan. Bake for 20-25 minutes until firm. Let cool for in pan for approx. 1 hour, then lift out and cut into squares. Enjoy!

reprinted from www.yogajournal.com

Winter Squash Surprise - Recipe

This a fun meal to serve. Everyone gets their own little baby "pumpkin", filled with yummy rice and cranberries.

1 cup wild rice blend, such as Lundberg
2 cups low-sodium vegetable broth
Carnival squash (one per person)
EVOO & EVCO
1 1/2 cups chopped zucchini
1 teaspoon dried rubbed sage
1 tablespoon minced fresh thyme leaves
Dried cranberries
Goat cheese


Winter Squash Surprise


In a medium saucepan, combine rice with broth. Bring to a boil, stir, reduce heat, cover, and simmer for 35 minutes, until just al dente. Remove from heat. Preheat oven to 425°. Cut off top ½ inch of squash; reserve tops. Trim bottoms if necessary to sit level. Scoop out seeds and strings. (save seeds to roast later!) Brush insides with EVOO. Sprinkle with coarse salt and ground pepper. Place squash, cut side down, on a baking sheet. Roast until barely tender, about 20 minutes for small squash, 25 minutes for medium squash. Meanwhile, place 1 tablespoon of EVCO in a large sauté pan over medium heat. Add zucchini and cook until tender but not brown, 5–7 minutes. Add sage and thyme, season with salt and pepper, and stir to coat. Add cooked rice and simmer about 4–5 minutes. Remove from heat; stir in handfull or two cranberries and and goat cheese (approx. 2 oz). Taste, and adjust seasoning. Remove squash from oven when ready. Turn over, spoon rice mixture into each squash and drizzle EVOO over top. Replace squash tops. Arrange squash in a roasting pan. Reduce oven temperature to 375°. Bake squash for 20 minutes; then remove tops and continue to bake until heated through, about 10 minutes more. Remove from oven and let stand 5 minutes before serving. Any additional rice mixture can be added to meal or saved for another time.

Veggie Chips - Recipe

I LOVE making these veggie chips. Super easy and satisfying when you want a little "crunch". In this pic, I made sweet potatoes, green beans, apples and zucchini, but you can do anything. Carrots, pears and bananas are great too! You can lightly S&P, or add more flavors like cinnamon, sugar, curry, cayenne, etc. and throw them in the dehydrator. I also have been using a Mandolin to get those "perfectly" sliced pieces!

Amazing Home Birth

Baby Roman

One of my best friends, Victoria, just had her second baby at home...and so quickly that her Midwife didn't make it in time and hubby Chad caught Baby Roman. Read her amazing story as she shares how a woman's body innately knows what to do and how to birth her baby. Victoria, fellow yogi and mommyhood blogger, is truly an inspiration to other mamas. We were both pregnant as the same time with our first children, Gemma and Nolan, who were born just a day apart. Congrats to Victoria and Chad on another beautiful birth!

"Nature needs no help, just no interference "- BJ Palmer
http://www.innatemama.com/1/post/2011/12/0-to-baby-in-15.html

Fruit Cobbler - Recipe

This easy recipe is vegan, offers fiber and omega-3, can be served hot or cold and can be made with a variety of fruits, whatever is in season.

Fruit Cobbler:
1 1/2 cups rolled oats
1/2 cup almond meal
1/2 cup sugar (coconut or date is good)
2 Tbs ground flaxseed
1 cup + 2 Tbs spelt flour (divided)
1/4 tsp salt
1/4 tsp baking soda
2 tsp vanilla extract
1/2 cup EVCO, melted
2-4 Tbs water
1/2 tsp ground cinnamon
2 cups, or more, diced fruit: strawberries, apples, pears, blueberries, etc.

Preheat over to 350*. Line a 8"x8" baking dish with parchment paper. In a mixing bowl, place oats, almoond meal, sugar, flaxseed, 1 cup of spelt, salt, baking soda and vanilla; toss to combine. Use two forks to work in the EVCO. Add water, 1 Tbs at a time until the mixture resembles small peas. Remove 1 cup of oat mixture and set aside. Press remaining mixture into prepared pan. Bake 25 minutes or until nicely browned. While its in the oven, place 2 Tbs spelt flour and cinnamon in bowl. Stir in fruit until well coated. Spread fuit over hot crust when ready. Sprinkle top evenly with reserved oat mixture and press gently. Return to oven and bake for 20 minutes or more until top is golden brown. Remove and cool. Can be served warm or cold....amazing with coconut icecream!

Baked Coconut Lentils - Recipe

This is a delicious Indian-inspired version of baked beans from Whole Foods. Experiment with the spices, dates and coconut - add or subtract as needed. Tastes even better second day around.
Baked Coconut Lentils:
1 tablespoon EV Organic Coconut Oil
1 yellow onion, chopped
1 teaspoon ground ginger
1/2 teaspoon Turmeric
1 pound Organic Lentils
1 cup pitted dates, chopped
2 teaspoons gluten-free reduced-sodium tamari soy sauce
1/2 cup shredded coconut

In a large saucepan, heat oil over medium heat. Add onion and cook until softened and beginning to brown, about 8 minutes. Stir in ginger and turmeric and cook 1 minute. Add 6 cups water, lentils and dates and bring to a boil. Reduce heat to medium-low and simmer 30 minutes. Preheat oven to 350°F. Stir in tamari and transfer lentils to a 2-quart baking dish or casserole. Cover and bake 30 minutes, then uncover, top with coconut and bake 15 to 20 minutes longer or until lentils are tender and coconut is golden.

Mama's Pissed Off

"Whether you give or share, are kind or not, never let your grace fall."

This have been kinda hard for me to do lately. I try, really I do, to be a patient and loving person, and especially to demonstrate those qualities to Nolan. But my crazy little man demands so much from me. Sometimes when my patience is wearing thin, something, or someone, else takes my focus, my "grace", and turns me into a real B!%#$!!

As the mom of a potty-training toddler, using the handicap bathroom (especially with a stroller) is very convenient. Of course, I always look for a family bathroom first, but if that is not available, the handicap one is second-best. I am sure other moms in my situation can relate to how frustrating it is when a perfectly capable person emerges from the handicap stall when there were plenty of empty regular stalls to use. It's even more annoying when that able-bodied person is yapping away on their cell while sitting on the toilet in the handicap stall. My heart breaks for the truly handicapped person who relies on the bars to literally use the toilet.

All public bathrooms need attendant to make sure that the faucets work, soap is full and there are plenty of TP and paper towels. Employments rates are low - here's a good job for someone!

This has happened to me on numerous occasions. With Nolan in the stroller, I am approaching the front door of a store. A person is either in front of me or coming out of the store, clearly sees me (makes eye contact), and then does not hold the door for me! I am usually so close that I catch the door before it closes all the way. How hard would that be to hold the door? On one occasion, it was an EMT/Fireman. As we both approached the door, he got to it first. I though he would hold it for me, but no, he just walked in and let the door close behind him. (he was off duty, getting lunch).

I was recently in a church's family bathroom. The room was large and had a little nook, with a plastic desk chair and a boppy. Is this where they expected their breastfeeding patrons to nurse their child? In a bathroom? And what about the other families that need to use that bathroom - wouldn't it be easier for everyone if the breastfeeding mom used another location? Strange.

Next time, just think about all the things a breastfeeding, stroller-pushing, potty-training, chasing-after-her-kid mom has to deal with everyday, and HELP HER OUT!

Humans....Animals Living in Captivity

"To forget how to dig the Earth and to tend the Soil is to forget Ourselves" - Ghandi

Ok, this is something that I have been thinking about lately and I'm gonna go a little far-out there on this post. Not because I think we should literally live like an animal. No, I enjoy modern technology, living in an air-conditioned house and shopping for my food (not hunting for it!). But, because I do want people to remember that we ARE animals, and to understand that we still have the same basic needs, physiology and instincts as an animal, even if we DO live in a modern world.

Food: You would not feed a dog something other then dog food and water. Treats are exactly that - a treat, to be given sparingly, maybe once a day. (I am also very picky about my dog's food, and prefer to feed her mostly real meat, quinoa and veggies as she would find in nature). You would not feed a dog a cookie or candy or soda - that would make them sick! So then why would you feed yourself or your kid that stuff? Eat what is innate for your body and prepare to be amazed how good you feel!

Exercise:  All people can agree that animals need exercise, but rarely make time to exercise themselves. Most people will take their dog to the dog park to run around while they sit on the bench. We feel guilty if the dog doesn't get to play because we know that they need it; its VITAL to their life! Guess what? Exercise is also vital for human life, too!  

Birth: Would you drive your dog to the vet to birth her puppies? That seems odd. No, you would leave her alone to nest and let her birth her babies when she is ready. You would not induce her, monitor her or even be with her. You would quietly wait, excited for the miracle of life. But when a human mother is in labor, it turns into an emergency. How quickly can we get her to the hospital? How quickly can she get the baby out? As humans, we enjoy the support of others with us during birth. But we have forgotten our instincts and trust in our bodies to do exactly what they were designed to do.



Mama looks happy and relaxed as she nurses her 4 pups

 Bonding and Breastfeeding: No one would even think about seperating a puppy from it's mother after birth. In fact, many species will reject the newborn if touched by a human. When you get a puppy, the owner will not give it away until the puppy has naturally weaned from the mother. For animals, we can all agree that Mother's Milk is all the baby needs. They all sleep together, nurse on demand, and are rarely interfered with. Why is this any different for humans? Why are human babies wisked away from the mother, cleaned off and given a bottle immediatly?

Someone once told me, "You're really calm and relaxed for a first-time mother." Am I? I try to follow Mother Natures path when parenting Nolan. I follow my instincts, and stay strong to what I believe. It may be different then other parents, but it is what works for us and I think it is what Nature intended.

A "Baby-Led" Lifestyle

"Baby-led weaning", "Baby-led sleeping", and "Baby-led eating solids" might be new "Buzz words" to some parents, but this concept is really old. While many "experts" believe that keeping a baby on a schedule is best and certain milestones should happen at specific stages in a baby's life, I think that the babies are the experts! Babies are incredibly smart, more then we give them credit for. They are not aware of "stages", or days, weeks and months, or even time. They are very in tune to their bodies, and know what they want, when they want it. We must remember that in the first years of a babies life, they are developing and growing very fast and every day is different for them. Their "schedule", whether its sleeping, eating or playing will vary. It doesn't mean that they are not on a schedule. They are - their schedule! And that means sometimes when a baby takes a longer nap, they needed it, and yes, you may not get to the store, but that is what your baby needed to stay well!

Think about a time when you were extra tired and really wanted to sleep in or take a mid-day nap. This is your body's way of recovering or fighting off a cold. If you powered through your day, ignoring your needs, you might end up sick.

By letting your baby lead, with your gentle guidance of course, you are meeting your baby's needs.

Some might say that "Nolan runs the show", but for our family, the baby-led lifestyle works best. We do not fight over schedules because we let Nolan lead the way. He knows best what he needs. When Nolan seemed interested in solid foods, we let him try a little, and slowly added more and more into his diet. If he did not like something, we never pushed it, but just tried introducing it another day. By only offering healthy foods, those are the foods that he had a taste for and an option to choose from. Now that he is older and can recognize foods, keeping only healthy foods in the house is imperative. If he opens the refrigerator or cupboard and sees something he wants, he can have it. Starting Solid Foods...When?, Starting Solid Foods...What?, Starting Solid Foods...How?

I have not stop nursing him because he still uses my "liquid gold" for comfort and to help him fight off colds. He will wean completely when he is ready.

When it came to using the potty, it was a slow and gentle introduction. We are still working on it, but always with praise.

We co-sleep, and Nolan has mostly followed our sleeping schedule. And sometimes recently, he will choose to sleep on the floor on some pillows. I think his way of finding his own space and "practicing" sleeping on his own. He is weaning himself out of our bed. We have never had a "bed-time" fight, because we all go to bed together and he feels safe and secure. Sometimes he will fall asleep while we watch evening TV, sometimes he won't. As for naps, he usually takes a nap around 1:00pm - 3:00pm, but again that varies from day to day.  I know he is tired around that time, but instead of forcing him to the bed at a certain time, we cuddle on the couch or in bed, nurse and he eventually falls asleep when he is ready.



7/2011:
Rocky Mountain National Park, CO.



When it comes to playing, climbing and exercising we let Nolan try what he wants when he is ready. I have noticed that he will observe everything from the sidelines first and then try. Or he will play first on the item he is familiar with (say the swing), before progressing to something new (the rock wall). With our guidance and supervision, we let him climb, hang, swing, jump, swim., bike and roll. I try not to be that "over-protective" parent. This is the only way he will learn his body's limits.

By following Nolan's lead, we save alot of time and tears. He is happy, content and secure; and we feel that we are happier, less-stressed and better parents.

Guilt-Free Sandwiches

I love sandwiches! I could literally eat one every day for lunch - peanut butter and jelly, BLT's, grilled cheese and tomato, and any other combnation of bread, cheese and meat.

Problem - almost everything on that sandwich is not good for you. Traditional Bread - full of inflammatory grains, sugars and preservatives; Mayo - check out that label first!; Deli Meat/Bacon - can you say sodium, preservatives and I don't know of a deli meat that is grass-fed free-range; Cheese - unless is raw, organic, unpasteurized cheese, I would not eat it. Again, look at ingredients in the label; Peanut Butter - Peanuts are inflammatory, and oils that PB is made with (corn/cottonseed/safflower) are also inflammatory and GMO; Jelly - check your labels for organic fruits, no HFCS or aspartame.

Solution - learn some simple alternatives to switch to that will keep you satisfied. And, you might just fall in love with a "new" sandwich.

• Bread - we only use Ezekiel Bread, which is USDA Certified Organic, and made with sprouted seeds/grains. You can also look for gluten-free breads made with rice flour.
• Mayo - you can make your own, or look for organic and/or vegan alternatives.
• Meat - avoid deli meat at all costs. Instead you can use thinly sliced or ground chicken, turkey, beef (organic, free-range, antibiotic/hormone-free)...and see my "meat alternative" below.
• Almond Butter - use this instead of PB. And, you can make your own in your blender. Almonds, coconut oil, a little salt, honey and cinnamon.
• Jelly - you can made your own fruit purees from organic fruits. And, I love almond butter and banana toasted sandwiches.

Grilled Portobello Mushroom Burgers:
Grill up a large Portobello Mushroom. While it's grilling, lightly brush both sides several times with a mixture of Balsamic Vinaigrette, S&P, and Ground Cumin, Oregano and Basil. When tender, remove, place on a Ezekiel Bread Hamburger Bun. Add spicy mustard to bun and top "burger" with and a slice of raw Cheddar cheese, alfalfa sprouts and avocado (and any other veggies you like). Portobello Mushrooms are thick and have a "meaty" texture. You will think you are eating a hamburger without the guilt!

Grilled Eggplant Sandwiches:
Cut eggplant into thin circles (my new favorite type is the Japanese/Oriental Eggplant!). Brush with EVCO, sprinkle with S&P and your favorite seasonings and grill until soft. Place on Ezekiel Bread, or Food for Life Gluten-free Rice Bread. Add mustard/mayo. Top with raw mozzarella, tomato and arugula. Toast lightly to melt cheese and enjoy! Very filling and tasty!

If you choose to make these sandwiches vegan, just substitute the cheese.

Soup's On - Recipes

I love soup! It's easy to make, easy to store and easy to reheat. Everyone in our family loves it; a great "first food" for kids. Plus, it is a good way to use up any extra veggies before they go bad. You can put anything into a soup - beans and lentils, veggies, herbs and spices, chicken or beef. And the base can be anything from veggie, chicken or beef stock to plain water to a tomato or squash base.

I like to make a big pot of soup and then divide it up into smaller containers and freeze until we are ready to eat. It's a great way to have healthy food always on hand, and if you don't feel like cooking after a busy day.

Experiment and play around with different flavor, ingredients, spices; and enjoy!

Butternut Squash Soup
Easy Tasty Filling Chicken Curry Soup
Indian Roasted Pumpkin Soup

Birth Story - Laura and Steven

Laura called me at 5:00am. She had been having consistent contractions since they woke her up at 2:30am. She asked when she should call her doctor. I told her to try to rest, eat a little and stay hydrated, and to call when they were 5 minutes apart, lasting 1 minute long for 1 hour (5-1-1). She called me back again around 7:00am stating that the contractions were at 5-1-1 since approximately 5:30am on and the doctor said she could come on in for a check. I did not hear back from them until 9:00am, when her husband, Steven, called me to say they were at the hospital and Laura was asking for me. Her status at 9:00am was 3 cm/100% effacement/0 station. During her previous prenatal visits, her midwife/doctor said the baby was “very low” and that this would probably be a fast labor.

When I arrived around 10:00am, Laura and Steven were in good spirits. They were walking the hallways and she seemed to be handling the surges (contractions) well. Although the baby was not posterior, she was experiencing a lot of back labor. I tried the double hip squeeze and it worked. She loved that. I showed Steven how to do it since he is much stronger then me and she liked the pressure very hard. While he did the hip squeeze, I massaged her hands, arms and shoulders.

The hospital insisted Laura have Intermittent External Monitoring, which unfortunately slowed her labor down. When she was not on the monitor, we had to work extra hard to get her surges going again at a consistent rate by walking, squatting, rocking her hips and emptying her bladder. I strongly feel that if she had labored at home longer and did not have the EFM as often, labor would have been much shorter.

By 1:00pm, she was 5cm. The surges were getting stronger, so we utilized some more distraction techniques: leg and back massage and counter-pressure, aromatherapy (she loved Rosemary) and the heated rice sock on her back. She liked them all. I had to remind Laura to drink water, juice and broth often to keep her energy up. She did not feel like eating solid food. She sang her birth song the whole time and I kept encouraging her that it was helping move her baby down. She enjoyed sitting on the toilet to help relax her hips, pelvis and pelvic floor. I prompted Steven to join her; he hugged her, massaged her, and whispered encouraging words. I left them alone at this point.

Between 1:00pm and 7:00pm, Laura went from 5cm – 7cm. I asked if she wanted to take a bath, which she really enjoyed and took a few during this time. At 5:00pm, the hospital gave her 500cc of IV fluid to keep her hydrated. Around 7:00pm, she started to go through transition. Her surged became incredibly intense and she started to panic and cry. She was asking for something to take the edge off, and didn’t think she could go on. I asked Steven privately what he thought. He said she did not want drugs no matter what she said. I had to use the “take charge” routine a few times with her. I held her face, speaking calmly but firmly to her, telling her she could do this, her body knew exactly what to do and she has been doing an amazing job. I reminded her that pain meds would make her sleepy and she would not have the energy to push her baby out.

Around 8:00pm, Laura was kneeling next to the bed and started to find “her rhythm”. She methodically rocked her hips and shook her head back and forth. Steven, his two aunts and myself took turns massaging her legs, hips and back. She stopped moaning and was deep in concentration. Nothing could break her rhythm. The evening nurse was awesome. She brought the EFM over to the side of the bed and held the monitor to Laura’s belly for the whole 20 min so she did not have to get back in bed. At 8:15pm her bag of waters ruptured. Laura soon got into bed, kneeling and rocking, hanging onto the top of the bed, which was propped up vertically. By 9:45pm, she was completely dilated and had the urge to push. She pushed for awhile kneeling and then turned over when she was ready. The nurse and I held each of her legs for leverage while Steven stood by her head, whispering encouraging words and helping to support her back. We kept telling her we could see the baby’s head with each push, but I felt she would be more effective if she could see it herself, so I asked for the mirror to be brought over. I told her look at her baby coming closer and closer with each push. Steven and I switched places so he could see his baby being born. Eventually, the baby was low enough that I told her to reach down and touch his head. That was Laura’s “Ah-ha moment”! Her voice rose with excitement and in a few more pushes, Baby Riley was here! The doctor placed the baby on her chest and a family was born. I stepped away for them to bond together. It was 11:04pm.

After Baby and Mom were cleaned up, we propped the bed back up and I helped Laura with proper nursing positions and tips. We stroked his cheek, getting him to root and soon he latched on. I stayed until 1:00am, making sure that he nursed on both sides and that Mom and Dad were comfortable. She reported to me later the next day that he was “eating like a champ”! The nurses told her that in the past 8 weeks, she was the only patient that had actually followed her birth plan, and had a completely natural, unmedicated birth. They were surprised that her plan followed through, but I was not. Laura is a strong, educated mama with a lot of support and I knew she could birth her baby the way she wanted in any situation.

Throughout the birth, both Laura and Steven asked me if everything that was happening was normal. I think by reassuring them that it was helped labor progress. I was glad that I was able to keep offering different positions and options to keep her comfortable and Steven involved, which was very important to him.

"I am a first time mother who researched, read up, and spoke to anyone that would listen about childbirth. When I finally learned about a doula coach and what they provide, I felt lucky and blessed to have Jenn Cohen by my side for her practicum. The knowledge (and motherly experience) she shared with my husband and myself added a great deal of calmness to my birth. She was always around for advice and early morning phone calls prelabor. During delivery, she became my support and stronghold, coaching me and my family thru my labor. She literally saved me from an epidural I did not want (but cried for in transition) and had me stick to my birth plan, which myself and my child will be forever grateful for. Post partum, she was a strong ally- helping my little boy latch for his first feeding and even driving us home from the hospital! Our family will always have an additional member with Jenn and the amazing warmth she showed to us!" ~ Laura Duncan & Riley Phoenix born Oct 17th 2011

Breastfeeding and the Stress Response

As adults, we all have stressors throughout the day. We stress about too little money, too many things to do and not enough time in the day. We might be fighting with our spouse or children. We might hate our job, our neighbor or the person in front of us that's driving too slow. Unfortunately, this chronic stress hour after hour and day after day puts a huge toll on our bodies.

Briefly and generally-speaking, this is the physiology of our body's response to stress: Increase heart-rate, respiratory rate and blood pressure, vasso-constriction to organs (that means the veins constrict, decreasing blood flow to the organs). The brain starts shutting down the parts for short-term memory and learning. Adrenals release catecholamines, which release free-fatty acids into your system for energy.   Catecholamines and cortisol will stimulate the release of sticky factors and blood platelets. Cortisol will down-regulate insulin receptors. Cortisol converts extra calories to fat and moves it to the abdominal area. (Extra abdominal fat increases your risk for diabetes and heart disease.) Under stress you crave Fats & Sugars. Most people do not go for healthy fats/sugars like lean meats, nuts/seeds and fruits & berries. No, instead they grab a Soda, BurgerKing and a candy bar. All that trans fats and HFCS increases you blood sugar EVEN MORE, increases insulin resistance even more, and increases your risk for heart disease, obesity and diabetes. Cortisol also down-regulates your immune system - increasing your chances of Colds, Flu, Cancer. Cancer is an immune issue – we all have cancer cells, but most of the time we are able to fight it off. Do you ever wonder why is it whenever you are stressed out you get sick?


But what about a baby? Do babies have stress? Sure they do. They don't know if your coming back for them, they might wake up in a dark room, they have something wet on their bottom that they can't get off. They are being constantly introduced to new people and places. As a toddler, they might start preschool with a new teacher, friends and fun things to do...but they wonder if you are coming back for them? Your family might move to a new house - but this new place is strange and unfamiliar to a little one, even though you are there. Your child might even witness you and your spouse fighting - and that can be scary to them. They might be mastering a new skill - crawling, walking, climbing. A new toy or movie might be stimulating their brain. Although these situations are not all negative, they are "stressors". Think about your wedding day, or going to a foreign country, or a rollercoaster - all fun and exciting, but can still have the same "stress response" on your body.

So, as adults, we have the knowledge and means to reduce our stress and improve our health. Yoga, exercise, meditation, a raw, clean diet, regular chiropractic care, etc.

But what can a baby do? BREASTFEED! Babies innately know what to do when they are stressed. They don't have to think about, plan it, schedule it - they just DO it!! They cuddle up next to Mama where they feel warm and safe. Their heart rate and respiratory rate start to match yours. They gaze into your eyes. Their "craving" for fat and sugar is satisfied with Mama's Milk - and breastmilk has the perfect ratio of fats and sugars for their body at that specific time. The immunoglobulins received in your breastmilk is exactly what they need to boost their immune system. They get a rush of oxytocin (the "love" hormone) to relax their body. They "exercise" their jaw, and that sucking motion helps to calm them down and promotes CSF (Cerebral Spinal Fluid) flow up and down the spinal cord.



So relaxed from breastfeeding
I couldn't even finish my smoothie....

 I am so glad that I can provide this "stress outlet" for Nolan. I have noticed patterns of more or less breastfeeding, and he definitely breastfeeds more when there are big changes or a very active schedule. He innately, amazingly, knows what his body needs. And, he is never sick!

Breastfeeding is a great way to reduce stress for Mama, too. It makes her sit, relax, slow down and focus on her baby. There is also a release of hormones (oxytocin) to her brain, which makes her feel happy and in-love with her little one.

Holiday Candy Overload

The Holidays are quickly approaching us, and it is "candy-central" in every store . Fortunately, Nolan does not know what candy is yet, and I plan to keep it that way as long as possible. I know that some people might think that I am "depriving" him by not allowing him candy, even at the Holidays, but I feel the only thing I am depriving him of is sickness and disease. I don't think that there is anything wrong with an occasional cookie or chocolate, even for a little kid, but please - it's gotta be organic and high-quality! This is why I have dedicated so many posts to healthy snacks that taste just as good, if not better, then the store bought stuff! I don't mind then if Nolan has one, or more, of a raw, organic, vegan cookie or chocolate ball. Please check out the posts under "RECIPES" for tons of yummy treats!

Unfortunately, candy and chocolate has changed over the last century. Instead of being a luxury that people indulged in once a year, savoring every sweet bite, it is now commonplace to eat a candy bar everyday. And on top of that, most Americans will add a Big Gulp of soda, Whopper, fries, chips and donuts to their daily consumption.  How's that looking for heart-disease, obesity, diabetes and cancer?

Not just the quantity, but the quality of candy has also changed dramatically. Instead of using pure, raw, real ingredients, now most candy is comprised of "hidden ingredients" - chemicals and preservatives, such as aspartame, food colorings, HFCS, GMO's, MSG and more. Just look at the wrapper! Aspartame is used as the sweetener in almost everything, including chewing gum and mints. According to Dr. Mercola, "Aspartame was approved for dry goods in 1981 and for carbonated beverages in 1983. It was originally approved for dry goods on July 26, 1974, but objections filed by neuroscience researcher Dr John W. Olney and Consumer attorney James Turner in August 1974 as well as investigations of G.D. Searle's research practices caused the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) to put approval of aspartame on hold (December 5, 1974). Aspartame accounts for over 75 percent of the adverse reactions to food additives reported to the FDA. Many of these reactions are very serious including seizures and death. A few of the 90 different documented symptoms listed in the report as being caused by aspartame include: Headaches/migraines, dizziness, seizures, nausea, numbness, muscle spasms, weight gain, rashes, depression, fatigue, irritability, tachycardia, insomnia, vision problems, hearing loss, heart palpitations, breathing difficulties, anxiety attacks, slurred speech, loss of taste, tinnitus, vertigo, memory loss, and joint pain. According to researchers and physicians studying the adverse effects of aspartame, the following chronic illnesses can be triggered or worsened by ingesting of aspartame: Brain tumors, multiple sclerosis, epilepsy, chronic fatigue syndrome, Parkinson's disease, Alzheimer's, mental retardation, lymphoma, birth defects, fibromyalgia, and diabetes." Most candies, snacks and cereals, especially the ones marketed to kids contain artificial dyes/colorings. What's wrong with that? According to the Washington Post:"Beyond the behavioral problems and cancer risks, the greatest hazard that dyes pose for children may also be the most obvious: They draw kids away from nutritious foods and toward brightly colored processed products that are high in calories but low in nutrients, such as fruit-flavored drinks and snack foods. Those types of foods are a major force in America's obesity epidemic." The Lancet study on food coloring effects prompted the British Food Standards Agency (FSA) to issue an immediate advisory to parents, warning them to limit their children's intake of additives if they notice an effect on behavior. They also advised the food industry to voluntarily remove the six food dyes named in the study and replace them with natural alternatives if possible. As of July 2010, most foods in the EU that contain artificial food dyes were also labeled with warning labels stating the food "may have an adverse effect on activity and attention in children." (ie: ADD/ADHD). And this prompted many food manufacturers to voluntarily remove the dyes from their products. Dr. Mercola also says, "This is why if you eat a Nutri-Grain strawberry cereal bar in the United States, it will contain Red 40, Yellow 6 and Blue 1. But that same bar in the UK contains only the natural colorings beetroot red, annatto and paprika extract. In fact, the UK branches of Wal-Mart, Kraft, Coca-Cola and Mars have removed artificial colors, sodium benzoate and aspartame from their product lines as a result of consumer demand and government recommendations. In the United States, however, the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) continues to allow these toxic ingredients in countless popular foods, including those marketed directly to children."  http://www.mercola.com/

So, THIS is why I don't give candy to my kid! It causes cancer, ADD, suppresses the immune system, causes insulin resistance, and once a kid gets the taste of sugar, it is addictive. It is really hard to reason with a two-year-old why they cannot have candy for breakfast, so I'm not even going to go there. Think you're "depriving" your kid? Think again! Think that "candy never killed anyone"? Think again!


From October 31st to Spring, the American diet is surrounded by more sugar, fats, chemicals and preservatives:  Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, New Years, Valentines Day, St Patty's Day, Passover and Easter (and not to mention all the school, work and in-between parties) - WOW!!!

Things we do different:
1) At Holidays, we give Nolan gifts of toys or books instead of candy.
2) We avoid situations where other children might be getting candy in front of Nolan, or have healthy treats ready to give him.
3) At Easter, for example, we put fruit in the plastic Easter eggs instead of candy. Nolan did not know the difference, and if we keep doing that year after year, that is all he will know.
4) For Halloween, I give out mini boxes of raisins, nuts or trail mix. We do very short Trick-or-Treating, and spend more time at community events where he will do craft projects, play and show-off his costume. He does not know that the little wrapped up items in his bag are even food, so its easy to sneak it away from him.
5) At school, I supply the class with healthy snacks and/or toys for the kids, and remind the teacher not to give Nolan candy.
6) As he gets older, we will teach him the true meaning of the Holidays and focus more on things to do and gifts to give people. The food we eat will all be healthy and Nolan will help us plan the menu. We will work on setting a good example and creating healthier traditions for our family to follow. If I only offer him healthy, good-tasting, quality food, and avoid the other stuff, this is all he will have a taste for. I am shaping his palate for the future.

This is what I go for....http://www.dagoba.com/

Happy Holidays!
~ The Natural Mama

Spicy Spinach Curry Pizza

The pizza is our house has gone Indian....

Spicy Spinach Curry Pizza

Spinach Sauce:
1 pound fresh baby spinach
3/4 cup chopped onion
4 cloves garlic, diced
1 tbs EVCO
1 tsp curry powder
1/2 tsp ground cumin
1/2 tsp ground turmeric
1/2 tsp ground cinnamon
1/8 tsp crushed red pepper/cayenne pepper
1/4 - 1/2 cup coconut milk
(All ingredients should be organic)

Wash and rinse spinach in a colander; drain and add to a large pot with about 1/2 inch of water in the bottom. Heat on high until water begins to steam, then cover and reduce heat to low. Cook for 3-4 minutes while spinach wilts. Drain spinach and move into food processor. Process until smooth. Using the same pot, saute the garlic and onions in EVCO over med-high heat until onions are brown and soft. Add spices and stir well. Add back in spinach and coconut milk, stir to your desired consistency. Add more milk if too thick. Season with S&P, and more crushed red pepper if you want it spicier.

Preheat over to 400*. Place Naan Bread on cookie sheet. Add spinach sauce to bread, covering it well to the edges, and cook for approx. 5-8 minutes. Add browned ground beef or chicken (this could be cooked while the spinach was cooking) or cooked while beans, or any other toppings to the bread and cook for another 5 minutes, or until bread edges start to brown. Top with EVOO, goat cheese or feta cheese, and any other spices. (I used more diced garlic)

** (If you use beef or chicken, make sure it is free-range/grassfed/no hormone)

A Successful Breastfeeding Future

Recently, I was in well-known toy store buying a gift for a friend. I wondered down the little girl toy isle to see what I was missing out on by having a boy. Every single baby doll came equipped with a bottle. Whether it was just a regular doll, or a special one that ate food, pooped, sang a song or rode in a stroller, it came with a bottle. It seemed that in order for this doll to "do" any of her special tricks, she needed a bottle. Now I don't have to tell you where I stand on bottle-feeding, breastfeeding, baby-wearing, attached parenting, etc. So, obviously, I was annoyed that there was no doll to represent MY style of parenting to the little girl I might have one day. I carefully scanned each doll box....No, wait, here's a doll with a sling! Yes - the little mama can wear her baby! But what's that? A BOTTLE!? Why does she need a bottle if she's wearing her baby, and can easily breastfeed? This is subtle marketing to young girls (and boys!) that breastfeeding is not to be shown, talked about, or educated on. Bottle-feeding is fine, and in fact, preferred.

I am now remembering a time when Nolan was a few months old, I was nursing him in the ladies lounge at the YMCA. Being in a private ladies-only area, I did not cover up. Most of the older ladies didn't mind and smiled sweetly. They were my grandmother's age, and I wondered how many of them nursed their own children, or maybe wished that they had. Then a mom with her young daughter, about 5 years old, came along. The little girl just stared at me and boldly asked, "Whatcha doin'?" I giggled, glanced at her mom, and said, "I'm feeding my baby. He's hungry". You would have though I told her that aliens were landing on the Earth. "Your feeding him? From your boob?" (I told you this kid was bold!) I just told her yes, as her mom apologized and quickly walked her to another area of the locker room. I don't know what her mom's explanation was on this subject, but I hope by the time this little girl grows up and decides to have children of her own, she will educate herself on the benefits of breastfeeding.

Nolan at 2 months

"The newborn baby has only three demands. They are warmth in the arms of his mother, food from her breasts, and security in the knowledge of her presence. Breastfeeding satisfies all three." - Grantly Dick-Reed, MD.




The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that breastfeeding continue for at least 12 months, and thereafter for as long as mother and baby desire. The World Health Organization (WHO) recommends continued breastfeeding up to 2 years of age or beyond. And, anthropologists would argue that breastfeeding should continue until 2-7 years. However, according to the CDC (Center for Disease Control), only 14% of babies are exclusively breastfed until they are 6 months old. http://www.cdc.gov/breastfeeding/faq/. And why is that? If a young girl or boy is never shown or exposed to breastfeeding, how are they to learn that breastfeeding is the normal and innate way to feed a baby? If a mother covers up all the time while feeding, older children might view breastfeeding as secretive or something to be embarrassed about. If a mother expresses that bottle-feeding and/or formula-feeding is the "best/easiest/normal" way to feed a baby, then that is what her children will learn and they in turn will view breastfeeding as "difficult/insufficient/time-consuming/painful" and may never even try. If a mother (or father) only views breasts as sexual, how will a child ever learn their real purpose?

Above, I put bottle-feeding (breastmilk) and formula-feeding together for a reason. Although breastmilk is far superior to formula, the act of breastfeeding is far superior to bottle-feeding (breastmilk or formula). Dr. Jack Newman, MD explains this in his book, The Ultimate Breastfeeding Book of Answers as: "We often assume that if breastfeeding is not possible - a rare situation - formula is the second-best solution for feeding the baby. The World Health Organization (WHO), though, makes it very clear that infant formulas are not second best to breastfeeding. Second best would be the mother's own milk, pumped or expressed, and fed to her baby (perhaps with a cup or tube). This is only second best because the value of breastfeeding includes such benefits as the development of the baby's jaw and facial muscles as he nurses at the breast, and the transfer of germs back and forth between the mother and the baby, which helps protect the baby against infection and allergies, is more likely to occur when the mother and baby are together, touching, skin to skin and mouth to breast. Expressed milk won't provide those important factors, but is the next best thing to breastfeeding. If pumping or expressing is impossible, the third feeding suggestion on WHO's list is donated milk from a breastmilk bank. Only if that is also not available would artificial baby-milk feedings be used - the fourth-best solution." (I would also like to add that there are ways to make your own formula at home so that the ingredients are safe, organic and real. In my opinion, this would be the 4th option, and commercially-produced formula 5th).

Even at 2 years old, Nolan is very aware of what breastfeeding is and looks like. He observes other mothers nursing at our La Leche League meetings. In fact, just a few days ago, he held his baby doll up to his chest and "nursed" it, and then gave to me to give it a "ba-ba". To him this is the normal and only way to feed a baby. And, I know that one day he will encourage his wife to breastfeed their children.

A passage in La Leche League's The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding shares that, "Breastfed boys and girls often nurse their dolls, stuffed animals, and toys. Assuming they don't go for their navels, which are easier for them to find, you may be surprised at their ease and accuracy. They learned this from you, and they learned it early. Imagine how much easier breastfeeding will be for them, compared to what it was like for you and your friends. What a short learning curve your daughter will have! And your son will understand how and why to help his partner. By nursing your child for a normal length of time, you're mending the breastfeeding chain that was broken in the twentieth century."

And, as for the baby dolls...if I do have a girl next time around, I will have to look for a doll with-OUT a bottle (or remove it at least!), because MY daughter will know "breast is best" and will WANT to wear, co-sleep and breastfed her dolly because that is what mommy does and that is what feels right!

"While Breastfeeding may not be the right choice for every parent, it is the BEST choice for every baby." 

Quinoa Almond Cookies

Here is a easy, healthy, gluten-free and vegetarian cookie.

Quinoa Almond Cookies: 
1/4 Cup Honey (or agave to make this recipe vegan)
1/3 Cup Brown Sugar
1/2 Cup Butter (I use organic vegan butter)
1/2 Cup Almond Butter
1/2 tsp Vanilla
1 Cup Rice Flour
3/4 Cup Quinoa Flakes
1 tsp Baking Soda
1/4 tsp Sea Salt


Heat oven to 350*. Beat honey, brown sugar, butter, almond butter and vanilla in medium bowl until creamy. Combine rice flour, quinoa flakes, baking soda and salt in small bowl and then add to wet mixture and blend well. Form small balls and place on cookie sheet. Bake 12-15 minutes or until light golden brown. Enjoy!

Curried Butternut Squash Surprise

It's Fall! Yes, here in sunny South Florida, the weather has changed from 100* to 80*, its getting dark at 7:30pm instead of 9:00pm, and the spicy smell of cinnamon is in the air....well, at my house, at least! I LOVE this time of year and wish that the weather would cool off a bit more!

This meal certainly put me in the "cold weather" mood. Its easy, and although it does cook for about an hour in the oven, you can do other things while it cooks!

Curried Butternut Squash Surprise:
2 small or 1 large butternut squash (about 2 pounds total)
2 cloves garlic, minced
1 (1-inch) piece fresh ginger, peeled and grated
3 tablespoons Extra Virgin Olive Oil
1 tablespoons pure maple syrup
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1 teaspoon curry powder
2 teaspoons chili powder
3 tablespoons (more more) unsweetened shredded coconut
2 tablespoons (or more) dried cranberries

1. Preheat oven to 375˚. Cut and peel squash; chop into 1- to 2-inch pieces. Place in a large bowl, salt and pepper to taste, and add remaining ingredients except coconut and cranberries; toss well to coat. Pour into a large glass casserole dish and bake for about an hour, stirring once or twice. Squash should be soft.
2. Top with toasted coconut and dried cranberries, put back into over for 5-10 minutes, and then remove.

I served this over quinoa and lightly steamed baby broccoli on the side.

Here is another version of this recipe. Same ingredients and cooking instructions as above, except this time I used a different type of squash (Heirloom Squash), added the brussel sprouts to the squash in the oven about half way through, and served it over this awesome "6-types of rice mix" I get in bulk at WF.

The "Peaceful Mama"

The Peaceful Mama is at peace with herself and her mothering decisions. She does not know all the answers, or even tries to, but she is comfortable asking for help and confident that she will make the right decision. She is not easily swayed by others opinions. She knows that it is not money, clothes or toys that make her children happy, but of her unconditional love for them and nurturing ways.

The Peaceful Mama surrounds herself with peaceful people, a peaceful partner and teaches peace to her children. She opens her eyes to take in the beauty of this world; she opens her ears to hear her children's laughter; she opens her heart to receive her partner's love...and all this brings her peace. In her life there are minutes of sadness, hours of loss, and days of despair. But she learns to find peace in the world and with Mother Nature's Great and Mysterious Plan.

Strength does not lie in what you have; It lies in what you can give - and the Peaceful Mama gives her love to those around her. In turn, that makes her a stronger mama. She openly shares, gives, helps, supports - without asking for anything in return.

The Peaceful Mama has found a partner that gives her as much love and support as she gives to him. They do not burden or weigh each other down. Instead, they lift up each other, inspire, share and grow together as a couple. Their love gets stronger everyday, and that creates peace between them. Their children sense this peace, and they will learn to share it with others.

Happy Peace Day!
~ The Natural "Peaceful" Mama

Roasted Tomato Basil Hearts

Roasted Tomato Basil Hearts:
Extra Virgin Olive Oil
4 (or more!) Medium Tomatoes (like tomatoes-on-the-vine size)
Fresh Basil
4+ Garlic Cloves, diced
Fresh Goat Cheese (raw and unpasteurized preferred)

Preheat oven to 450*. Pour a little EVOO in glass/enameled dish. Cut tomatoes in half and roll cut part in olive oil; then turn over and arrange in dish, cut side up. Sprinkle each tomato with garlic and S&P to taste. Roast for approx. 15 min. Add goat cheese on top and roast for another 5 minutes.  Remove from oven, drizzle with EVOO and sprinkle with chopped basil.

Do I really need all this stuff?

Go into any baby store to register and you will no doubt be given a looooong list of "must-haves" - things that any modern parent just simply "can not survive without!" (read sarcastically). I laugh at this! Obviously this list is written to scare first-time parents, and even some second- and third-time parents, into buying everything on the list, and keep the baby supply industry one of the biggest money-making businesses in the world. Most of the time parents end of spending money on items that they really don't need, take up too much space, are too expensive, and some they never even open. Unfortunately, that hard-earned money could have been spent more efficiently and the environment could have been saved from more waste.

In today's economy, many parents are trying to find ways to cut costs, but some still struggle with the thought "but the baby needs that!" Really? Does he? Or are you afraid that if you don't buy that item, you have failed as a parent to provide your baby with everything in the world. In the last few decades, the baby industry has exploded with every gadget in every pattern and color imaginable, and they have a very clever way of making parents competitive over what to have or not have. More legitimate questions are "Should I get this now or later?" Or, "Should we get the car seat that attaches to the stroller, but is only good for 30lbs, or get the car seat that is 6-50lbs, but we have to take the baby out to put in the stroller?" I agree, this can be confusing. My suggestion is to visit the baby stores often through out your pregnancy, talk with friends who have babies and get their opinions, and really think how you would use each item, and if you need it at all. Do you imagine using it all the time? Could you borrow something to see how you like it before buying one for yourself? How long could you put off buying something? But, in the end don't be too hard on yourself - everyone ends up buying something they really did not need or like!

When I was pregnant, I knew that there was alot of  things that we would not need and I tried to make thrifty and economically-sound decisions. With my husband being a full-time student and me only working part-time, we did not have alot of money and had to make every penny count! We had a small apartment, (and still do!) so space was limited. Below, I have outlined the typical list you will get at any baby supply store, and have added my own comments. I understand that everyone's situation is different. If you have the means to buy more things for your baby, or for yourself, that you really feel makes life more convenient, then please do so! Some people spend $1,000.00 on a stroller, some only $100.00. Personally, I would rather spend my money on an awesome trip to Europe, investing in a larger house, or saving for college then a house full of unused toys and products that the baby has no concept of anyways. Babies are like dogs - they don't care what they look like or what they play with, as long a you are there, you love them, and you are playing with them!

The Typical Baby Store "Must-Have" List - (I'm not kidding - I copied this is straight from the Babies'R'Us registry!)

• Monitor - not needed if baby is sleeping in your room or co-sleeping.
• Cabinet and Door Latches - not needed until baby is very mobile, about 1 year. Depending on how curious your baby is, you still may not need for awhile.
• Safety Gates - not needed until baby is very mobile, or not at all depending on how your house it set up. We never had one.
• Outlet covers - not needed until baby is crawling, about 6 months.
• Travel Mirror - great idea, but not necessary. Just remember to keep your eyes on the road!
• Breast Pump - not needed unless you plan on pumping/storing. You can also rent pumps, borrow pumps (just get new flange and tubes) and contact your local WIC office for free pumps.
• Breast Pads - I prefer the cotton reusable ones. A one-time purchase saves money and the environment.
• Nipple Cream - I love Earth Mama Angel Baby Nipple Butter. Can also be used on cuts and scraps and diaper rash.
• Breast milk storage - only needed if you plan on pumping/storing.
• Breastfeeding shawl - I used my sling alot for public breastfeeding, but most babies do NOT like their face being covered. Try a light receiving blanket - you'll get plenty of those!
• Nursing Pillow - I LOVED my Boppy! A great investment.
• Burping cloths - Use cloth diapers, old tee shirts, washcloths, etc.
• 6-12 Cloth Diapers - See above (i don't know what they list these twice?)
• 6 lap pads - what is this?
• 6-8 Bottles for formula, juice or water - Bottles are not needed until you plan on pumping/storing. If you think you will pump for short outings, most pump sets come with two bottles anyways. Mine did, and I never bought bottles. And, I hope that by the time a baby will be drinking juice and water (instead of breast milk or formula), they will be drinking from a sippy cup!
• Bottle warmer - ummm.....use a pot of hot water.
• Bottle sterilizer - can't you just wash with hot soapy water?
• Bottle Drying rack - can't you just use you regular dish drying rack?
• Bottle brush - this is good to get.
• Dishwasher caddy - why do you need this if your getting the sterilizer and drying rack? Pick one, or just hand-wash and save more money.
• Insulated tote - most diaper bags have in insulated area built-in. Unless you plan on pumping at work and storing, this is not needed.
• Feeder for strained food - loved this! Great idea - but a little messy.
• 8-12 Bibs - wow! That's alot of bibs! You can just use an old hand towel or cloth diaper tucked into their shirt.
• Pacifiers - maybe 1 or 2 in case your baby does prefer this over thumb-sucking. However, nursing for comfort instead of a pacifier is best for baby.
• Baby Mittens - We rarely used these...maybe 2-3 times. You probably only need 1 pair.
• Rattles - yes.
• Teethers -you can just freeze a wet washcloth.
• Parenting books - see my list of resources.
• Nail Clippers - yes.
• Brush and comb - yes.
• Digital thermometer - yes.
• Ear thermometer - why do you need both?
• First Aid Kit - I would not buy a whole kit. Your baby is not going on a cross-country trek! The clippers, brush, thermometer, nasal aspirator and dropper are all you need. (and this Babies'R'Us registry did NOT list the aspirator or dropper!). Any other type of first aid supplies (band aids, neosporin, burn cream, etc.)you should have on hand and/or only use with a doctor's permission.
• Humidifier/vaporizer - I would not buy until you need one, and even then you can borrow if really needed. We never used these.
• Diaper pail/Diaper Genie - A regular trash pail can be used for dirty diapers as breastfed babies diapers do not stink!
• Diaper pail refills - not needed. 
• Baby Bathtub - Read my previous post on Bath Time and I explain how a bath sponge (only $5.00) is easier and cheaper then the Baby Spa ($30.00+), and how bathing with baby encourages breastfeeding and bonding.
• Baby Bath Sponge - see above.
• 4 Hooded Towels - yes.
• 12 Washcloths - yes - but you probably do not need that many...you will be dong laundry!
• Bath toys - not needed at first. 
• Body Wash - For my baby shower, and even after, I got so much baby soap and lotions that they have lasted me 2 years! No need for fancy baby soap/shampoo, just use castille, glycerin or shea soap - very cheap and gentle!
• Shampoo - see above.
• Lotion - see above. Shea Butter works great
• Baby Oil - this is not good for their skin - use coconut oil or nipple butter instead.
• Alcohol swabs - why would a baby need this?
• Cotton swabs - cotton rounds are better then cotton balls.  And, you probably have some already in the house. No need to buy any. As for Q-tips, get the Baby-Safe kind for ears. For other uses, regular Q-tips are fine.
• Diaper ointment - again, you can use coconut oil to keep baby's skin from peeling, for cradle-cap and diaper rash. Nipple butter works great for diaper rash also. Read the post Breastfeeding As Medicine for FREE alternatives.
• Petroleum jelly - not good for their skin.
• Cotton balls - see above.
• Diapers - you will have to decide if you will use cloth or disposable, but either way, this is a great registry gift.
• Formula - not needed for the exclusively breastfed baby. Please see my many posts on why Breastfeeding is superior to formula, and this can save you thousands of dollars.
• Baby Wipes - you can make your own. See my post: Baby Wipes, Naturally.
• Travel wipes - Most diaper bags now come with a changing mat and pockets for diapers and wipes. Just stick some of your wipes in there or in a zip lock baggie - no need to spend money on a travel carrier.
• Wipes warmer - call me a bad mother, but I think this is a huge waste of money and the baby will get over a cold wipe.
•  Diaper bags (small & large) - get a large one - for the first year you will be carrying alot with you even for a short time out. Any kind of tote works well for a diaper bag.
• Baby changing mat - see above.
• Infant car seat/Convertible Car seat/Booster Seat - you will have to decide on what system you prefer.
• Strap covers - not needed.
• Neck Wings - not needed (unless you have a preemie, or your baby looks uncomfortable in the car seat). You can also use blankets.
• Head support - see above.
• Full-body support - see above.
• Window Sunshade - these are great.
• Car seat Toys - I like the kind that Velcro around the handle so you don't loose them, but not necessary. 
• Additional infant car seat base - think about if you really need this. Even if baby will be picked up by another person, you can leave the car seat AND base so your don't have to have a second one.
• Car seat undermat - why? Use a towel.
• Infant car seat carrier cover - why?
• Stroller: travel system, full-size, umbrella, jogging, convenience - You will have to decide what works best for you. We got one of those 3-in-1 strollers/car seats and loved it! Especially at the beginning when Nolan would fall asleep in his car seat, I could just pick it up, carry it in the house and he would never wake up! I still have never bought an umbrella stroller. I know some mothers love them because they are very light. I still use the original 3-in-1 stroller, since it holds up to 50 lbs. I like that it has a basket underneath to hold my bag and save my back!
• Stroller toys - again, I like the Velcro ones, but not necessary. 
• Stroller netting - I have one of these and never used it!
• Weather shield - Not necessary.
• Stroller blanket - why can't you use one of your many blankets that you will be getting?
• Full-size swing - now why do you need a full-size swing and a travel swing? Just get one. The full-size is great, I had one, but certainly not necessary.
• Travel swing - see above.
• Jumper - these are actually not good for their developing hip joints.
• Mobile walker - these are OK, but make sure their feet can touch the ground. Not good for the hips if their feet are dangling. Also, not necessary - we did not have one.
• Stationary entertainment - what does this mean? The best entertainment is Mommy and Daddy!
• Bouncer/rocker - nice to have. A swing and bouncer can be interchangeable - no need for both.
• Baby Carrier - YES! A must-have, either a sling or soft carrier. You might choose to have more then one. Since they can be pricey, do your research and borrow to try out first before purchasing. Wearing Your Baby
• Infant positioner - what is this? A Boppy works well to teach neck and back strength.
• Play Yard/Travel Yard - I think they mean a Pak'N'Play. We chose not to have a crib, and we are so glad! Nolan's first "bed" was a Pak'N'Play and that was one of our best investments. He slept in the top part at first, and then eventually moved down to the bottom. I liked that it did not have hard rails, but was soft if he rolled against the edge. It had a changing table attached and a little basket for diapers. It was small enough to fit right next to our bed and was easy to get him out in the middle of the night to nurse. But a night, he mostly slept with us. It was just easier for nursing. Nolan is still co-sleeping with us at 2 years, and we won't buy a crib at this point. He will go right into a twin bed when ready, and that will be his bed for the next several years. I highly recommend getting one of these to start with and then only progressing to a crib/bed when your baby is ready for they own room. Even then, you can pick up gently used furniture to save money. Co-Sleeping.
• 2-3 play yard sheets - Many of the Pak'N'Plays come with 1 sheet. Maybe one more is needed, but a total of 3-4 is not needed; you will be doing laundry.
• Play yard netting - not needed, and why?
• High Chair - Never got a highchair, we use a Bumbo instead and still do to this day.
• Booster seat - see above.
• Splat Mat - you can use an vinyl table cloth or old towels to save money.
• High Chair Cover - line with a old towel instead.
• Extra Highchair pad - why? just wash it.
• Cradle/Bassinet/Portable crib - see above under Pak'N'Play.
• Bedding set for above - see above.
• 2-3 sheets for the above - see above.
• Bassinet netting - why?
• Crib - see above under Pak'N'Play. 
• Changing Table - see above under Pak'N'Play. Also, you can use a dresser and get one of those foam toppers for changing, or borrow, or buy used.
• Armoire - Nolan got a used dresser when he was about a year old. Before that, I just folded his clothes in a fabric-lined wicker basket, which is now used for his toys.
• Dresser/chest of drawers - see above.
• Glider/rocker - definitely great to have.
• Ottoman - great for breastfeeding comfort.
• Blanket chest - Not necessary, can be used for extra storage though.
• Crib Mattress - see above on Pak'N'Play.
• Cradle/bassinet/portable crib mattress - see above on Pak'N'Play.
• 3 crib mattress pads - wow! 3??
• Vinyl mattress cover - good idea if you go that route.
• Crib Bedding Set - Might be more economical to buy things individually. Most items you will not need or will be dangerous to an infant (SIDS).You can always add onto the bedding set as they get older.
• 4-6 fitted crib sheets - 4-6 is ALOT. You will not be changing sheets every day, and you will be dong laundry. 2 is plenty to rotate.
• 4-6 blankets - I would not register except if there is a blanket that matches your set or you really love. People will give you more blankets then you can imagine without you even asking for them. I registered for two, and 4 receiving blankets and got about 9 blankets and 8 receiving blankets!!
• 4-6 receiving blankets - see above.
• 4-6 waterproof pads - 1 is fine.
• 4-6 sheet savers -1 is fine.
• Changing table pad - What is difference between a pad and a cover? Buy one water proof cover and your good.
• 2-4 changing table covers - see above.
• 2-4 baskets/storage bins - nice to keep diapers, wipes and baby care items organized.
• Decor: wall hangings, switch plate covers, crib mobile, lamp, wall border, window valance, diaper stacker, rug, hamper...none of this is necessary. I know, I know - a baby's room is the cutest thing! And they are! Part of me wishes I had a nursery for Nolan, decorated with everything perfectly matching. But then I think, "He would never be in there. It would be a waste of money and space. When he is ready for is his own room, he won't be a baby, and he will want a cool "big boy" room. Then we can have fun decorating!" (see posts on Attached Parenting and Co-Sleeping for more info). If you plan on co-sleeping, like we do, this can save you a ton of money in the beginning.
• Sleep positioner - what is this?
• Crib Toys - a few.
• Activity toys - yes.
• Toy box - yes, or you can just use a basket, box or even a laundry basket to save money.
• Baby gym - Nice, but not necessary. Try to pick up these kind of things second-hand, as babies grow out of them quickly.
• Books - rent for free at the library.
• Play Mat - See above under Baby Gym.
• DVDs - Get an educational one like Baby Einstein or exercise one like Mom&Baby Yoga.
• Cd's - classical or instrumental is very soothing, or download from iTunes, or burn a CD from a friend. 
• Baby picture frames - not necessary, but nice.
• Baby books - great idea to document baby's milestones.
• Photo Album - yes!
• Announcements - You can do free e-mail announcements via evite.
• Thank you notes - same as above.
• Camera - YES!!!!
• Clothes: You can count on always getting plenty of clothes at a baby shower. People can't help themselves - the clothes are just too cute. You will probably continue to get clothes a baby grows - it's an easy gift for family and friends. Don't buy any - you will have plenty! I have rarely bought clothes for Nolan over the past 2 years! A clothing swap or consignment stores are great places to get gently used clothes for cheap.When you register, get sizes newborn - 12 months. That way you will have a good variety: Homecoming outfit, 9-12 bodysuits, 2-4 cap and booties sets, 4-6 side-snap shirts, 4-6 pull-over shirts, 6-8 stretch sleep'n'play, 3-6 cotton overalls, 3 gowns, socks.
• 12-24 clothing hangers - not necessary unless you have an armoire or closet.

One thing that Babies'R'Us does not mention, but is great, is a swaddler. That is one thing that really helped calm down Nolan. You can also ask for gift certificates, which allow you to purchase exactly what you want when you need it. I am also surprised not to see more things for Mom on the registry, like labor support items, postpartum products and nursing bras and tanks. Remember to think about these items, too - Its not just about the baby!

I am very fortunate to have family and friends give us some wonderful things for our baby shower, but many items went unused. You can only use so many blankets. There are only so many clothes that baby can wear before they out-grow them. And other items will last you forever.